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Kamala Harris, attorney and US Democratic VP nominee, was interrupted by current VP Mike Pence over 20 times during their recent 90 minute debate.<\/p>\n

So every 4.5 minutes, he talked over her.<\/p>\n

It’s caused a bit of a furore online because quite frankly, we women have all had enough of it.<\/p>\n

Why do people interrupt?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Usually it is an attention and control<\/em> ‘thing’: whomever is speaking, holds the metaphorical speaking staff and all eyes must be on them.<\/p>\n

It can also be a superiority<\/em> ‘thing’: “I have something more important to say because I believe I am smarter than you.”<\/p>\n

Sometimes it’s a personality<\/em> ‘thing’: extroverts for example are energised by discussion and their desire to interrupt isn’t necessarily about attention, control or<\/em> superiority… they just get a high from being in the thick of the conversation.<\/p>\n

And lastly, it might be a not listening<\/em> ‘thing’: some people don’t actually listen to what their counterpart is saying and instead are thinking, “How can I get my point in? My point is more interesting than this. As soon as they take a breath I’ll jump right in.”<\/p>\n

What did Kamala Harris do?<\/strong><\/p>\n

So Mike Pence continued to interrupt Kamala Harris (probably for control reasons) but she did a brilliant job in politely calling him out.<\/p>\n

What I love about her response is how direct she was.<\/p>\n

She points out she was already speaking. He interrupts again. She allows him to finish.<\/p>\n

Then she looks at him directly, places her hand up and says:<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

She isn’t emotional. She is direct and firm.<\/p>\n

Her final line is brilliant. She implies that without her input, there is<\/em> no conversation (and also no purpose for either of them being there).<\/p>\n

She nails it because she doesn’t get into the detail and start bickering…<\/p>\n

She goes to a global<\/em> topic – the conversation<\/em> – and by forcing his agreement that a ‘conversation’ is actually what they’re both here for, she regains control of the debate.<\/p>\n

What are your tips for dealing with people interrupting you? I’d love to hear them.<\/p>\n

Rebecca<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

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