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I watched one of my favourite shows last night, Ted Lasso<\/em> – have you seen it?<\/p>\n

On the face of it, it’s just a TV series about a football club in a little town in England…<\/p>\n

But what this show is\u00a0actually<\/em>\u00a0exposing is the psychology of good and bad relationships…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Both the relationships you have with yourself and with other people.<\/p>\n

One of the main characters is called Rebecca (oddly enough). She’s a divorcee in her early 50s and she’s desperate to find happiness in love once again.<\/p>\n

She’s met a new man and after a few dates, begs her best friend Keeley to come on a double date so she (and her straight-talking partner Roy) can suss this guy\u00a0out.<\/p>\n

During this dinner, we watch wide-eyed (whilst gobbling popcorn on autopilot) as Rebecca’s new boyfriend reveals himself as being hideously egotistic, unsuitable and dull.<\/p>\n

We, as the audience, know that Rebecca can do a lot better. And Roy\u00a0knows it too.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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So what will happen??<\/p>\n

At the end of the night, Rebecca asks Keeley\u00a0what she thinks of the new boyfriend,<\/p>\n

“Yeah, he’s fine.”\u00a0<\/em>Keeley\u00a0awkwardly and politely replies.<\/p>\n

“Yeah, he’s\u00a0fine<\/em>\u00a0right?” Rebecca says.<\/p>\n

At this point\u00a0surprisingly,\u00a0Roy saves the day, stands square in front of Rebecca\u00a0and tells it like it is,<\/p>\n

“Fine?! You deserve someone who makes you feel like you’ve been struck by lightning. Don’t you dare settle for ‘fine’.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Settling…<\/p>\n

Coasting…<\/p>\n

Not really living…<\/p>\n

It all amounts to the same thing right?<\/p>\n

When we settle for ‘fine’ we are telling ourselves we aren’t deserving of anything better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But I know that isn’t you, is it?<\/p>\n

I know you want so much more from your life and from your career…<\/p>\n

Which is why I am here to help and guide you so that you\u00a0start pushing back on mediocrity<\/em>…<\/p>\n

So you\u00a0start taking on roles that give you every chance of success<\/em>…<\/p>\n

So that you\u00a0start saying ‘no’\u00a0<\/em>to opportunities that just aren’t good enough.<\/p>\n

In Roy’s words,
\n“Don’t you dare settle for fine.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Rebecca x<\/p>\n

P.S. You may be happy with your current remuneration but\u2026 what if it\u00a0could be\u00a0even<\/em>\u00a0better<\/strong>?<\/p>\n

How would that impact your sense of self-worth, your lifestyle or your family?<\/p>\n

My gift to you, \u2018The Perfect Pay Rise Script For Female Execs<\/a>\u2019<\/span> has a step-by-step process inside to ensure you\u2019re being paid appropriately for the phenomenal job you do.<\/p>\n

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Get your copy here:<\/p>\n

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