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There is a really powerful way in which people can be differentiated.<\/p>\n

Think of it like a sliding scale…<\/p>\n

At one end, you have people who are hugely\u00a0‘Others’\u00a0orientated<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

And at the other end of the spectrum, are those who favour\u00a0‘Self’\u00a0orientation<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

‘Others’ people will\u00a0do whatever they can\u00a0to help other people…<\/p>\n

They are\u00a0concerned about their impact<\/em>\u00a0on others and how others might perceive them.<\/p>\n

They will\u00a0seek out approval<\/em>\u00a0from other people…<\/p>\n

And might take on other people’s emotional baggage<\/em> and even put other people’s needs ahead of their own<\/em>.<\/p>\n

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At the far other end of the spectrum…<\/p>\n

Extreme ‘Self’ people (you guessed it) are literally in it for themselves…<\/p>\n

They are driven by their\u00a0own achievement<\/em>,\u00a0regardless of the impact\u00a0it may or may not have on others.<\/p>\n

They will do whatever it takes to be successful and care little for what others might think<\/em> of them.<\/p>\n

And they are less likely to seek out\u00a0external\u00a0input<\/em> to validate their ideas.<\/p>\n

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How Others-People Like to People Please<\/h2>\n

Whilst extreme Self-orientated people couldn’t care less about pleasing others (that’s a post for another time)…<\/p>\n

Extreme Others-orientated people are engrossed in the need to people-please<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

If this is resonating with you, as an Others-orientated person…<\/p>\n

You’ll seek out\u00a0validation<\/strong>\u00a0from other people…<\/p>\n

You’ll hate to upset the boat, so might also agree a lot<\/strong> with what other people say (even if you don’t actually agree).<\/p>\n

In your bid to support other people…<\/p>\n

You might have\u00a0weak boundaries<\/strong>,\u00a0saying ‘yes’… when you really mean ‘no’ to taking on additional work, working overtime etc<\/p>\n

It might also be that you say ‘yes’ to\u00a0avoid any possibility of conflict<\/strong>… because arguing with others goes against what you value.<\/p>\n

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What Causes The Need to Please?<\/h2>\n

At the heart of Others-orientated people is a deep desire to feel, and to be…<\/em><\/p>\n

Accepted by others<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

That need for safety and belonging is so strong…<\/p>\n

It can drive you to behave in ways that go against other important values<\/em>, essentially putting you in dilemma.<\/p>\n

Say for example you value\u00a0collaboration<\/em>…<\/p>\n

So you have studied your subject matter intensely and know your stuff…<\/p>\n

And now you want to share and discuss those ideas (collaboration<\/em>) with other people.<\/p>\n

If, during that discussion…<\/p>\n

There is disagreement with your ideas…<\/p>\n

Or your ideas are shut down (the opposite of collaboration<\/em>)…<\/p>\n

Then you might favour the need for\u00a0safety\u00a0and\u00a0belonging<\/em>\u00a0above\u00a0your other value of\u00a0collaboration<\/em>…<\/p>\n

Your dilemma becomes that you want to\u00a0collaborate\u00a0<\/em>but\u00a0<\/strong>you also want to feel accepted<\/em>…<\/p>\n

And when put in this situation, that\u00a0need for\u00a0<\/em>acceptance\u00a0<\/em>will win out every time.<\/strong>..<\/p>\n

Which means your desire to\u00a0collaborate\u00a0<\/em>always loses.<\/p>\n

Fear of rejection<\/strong>\u00a0is at the heart of people-pleasing behaviour…<\/p>\n

And that fear might be strong enough for you to allow your other values to be compromised by someone else time and time again.<\/p>\n

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So Here Are 3 Ways to Combat The Need to Please<\/h2>\n

Let’s talk about some simple steps you can take so that you don’t need to compromise yourself… and you can still get plenty of what you need: acceptance<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Sound good?<\/p>\n

Let’s dive in.<\/p>\n

Step #1:<\/p>\n

Acknowledge your own\u00a0values.<\/p>\n

Acknowledge your own\u00a0needs.<\/p>\n

That need to\u00a0feel safe and accepted\u00a0is 100% human – there is nothing wrong with it. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

However…<\/p>\n

If that need for acceptance<\/em> is consistently superseding other important needs and values, to your own detriment…<\/p>\n

It might be time to challenge your belief<\/strong> that disagreeing with someone, or having your own perspective, will result in them\u00a0rejecting\u00a0you.<\/p>\n

You can be\u00a0accepted\u00a0and\u00a0<\/strong>collaborate\u00a0for example.<\/p>\n

The two should not be in conflict… you can have\u00a0both!<\/p>\n

Have you ever thought that sharing your view, or pushing back when others disagree, might actually give you even\u00a0MORE\u00a0acceptance<\/strong>?<\/p>\n

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Step #2.<\/p>\n

If you are Others-orientated…<\/p>\n

You might believe that when you<\/strong> achieve \/are successful it must mean that other people will therefore ‘lose out’ or be negatively impacted somehow…<\/p>\n

Which goes against the grain for you, right?<\/p>\n

Again, this is a belief… ask yourself what\u00a0evidence\u00a0you have to support this belief:<\/p>\n

‘How likely is it others will lose or miss out if I share my opinion?<\/em>‘<\/p>\n

When you act, mindful of your impact on others, not only is that showing keen EQ skills…<\/p>\n

It also gives you even MORE acceptance<\/strong> from others. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

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Step #3:<\/p>\n

Having, communicating and\u00a0sticking\u00a0<\/strong>to\u00a0boundaries\u00a0is really important for Others-orientated people.<\/p>\n

When you define what behaviour is –\u00a0and is not\u00a0<\/em>– okay, you and other people know where they stand with you…<\/p>\n

And interestingly enough, that gives you\u00a0MORE\u00a0acceptance<\/strong>!<\/p>\n

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\"\"Hey I’m Rebecca Allen. I’m a Career Success Coach for professional women. And if you are struggling right now, feeling as though you’re lacking influence or feeling invisible at work, I am here for you.<\/p>\n

You might like to schedule a free 15-minute Career Strategy Call with me. They are an awesome first step to talk through your challenges and get some new action right away…<\/p>\n

There are a few available right now<\/a>… get your spot before this offer comes down.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

There is a really powerful way in which people can be differentiated. 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